Myth No. 12
If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they're yours; if they don't, they never were.
Those 1980s posters adorned with seagulls and sunsets hold a sickening grain of truth. Possessive love rarely flourishes. Whether it's a child, a husband, or a best friend, people need space to express their feelings. When you fall in love it's hard to loosen that grip and still feel secure, but you must try. Reassurance and open, intimate dialogue will give you the strength you need not to cling, but try not to demand. Before you ask for what you need from a lover, consider deeply what you can give of yourself.
PS: When you really love someone, setting them free or even giving him two weeks of "space" is about as easy as cutting off your hand.
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