Myth No. 15
Love is for life.
Many people will tell you that the aim of love is, eventually, to find the person with whom you can settle down, the person who is willing to have a long-term, serious relationship. Not me. The idea of finding "the one" or the idea that marriage is a superior relationship leaves far too much in its wake. A woman may love four men in her lifetime, and they may not all have been her lovers. A woman may mother a child with one partner but choose to love and live with another man later on. A woman may have many brief relationships to find that marriage suits her much, much later in life, or not at all. The idea that we must find someone with whom we can share our life is out of place, for we are sharing our lives with a broad range of special people at any given time. Focus on the one and we may miss out on the beauty and contribution of the many.
Cherie S.
ReplyDeleteI agree 100%. Beautiful. I also believe that just because a relationship isn't right at this moment, you don't have to trash the past with that person to not choose it now. In other words - I think you can honor time together and be appreciative of what was learned/shared and still choose to exit the relationship and move on. It is along the lines of "I made the best choices at the time given what I knew at that time... and that is good."