Myth No. 8
True love is forever.
Ugh, what a burden. Viewing love as a life sentence and both of you will be clammy and claustrophobic. Even in marriage a couple needs to focus on individual days spent together rather than great heaving chunks of time. Cherish each moment to build up to a whole, and love becomes lighter and more spontaneous. Love is also seasonal, blossoming, shriveling, and rebudding over time. Old married people make love after decades and quite often they have put up with a dreadful amount in the meantime. Desire comes and goes. Sometimes you spend so much time with one person that he melts into you and you can't "see" him. Sometimes you trap the person you love into a finite set of rituals and responses and don't accept his change. Give yourself and each other a fighting chance.
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