Love: Myth vs. Reality

Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen.
Myth No. 2

This may be true early on in a courtship but it's disastrous for an ongoing open, communing love.  Games hurt.  Inventing a steeplechase romance in which you are the elusive prize and he is the hunter greatly diminishes the experience of love.  Frozen to the spot, unable to initiate a kiss, your role as lover becomes passive.  Or worse, solely focused on the idea of being won, you lose sight of the person who is pursuing you and (quite possibly) of your own needs.  Being able to be yourself should be the greatest privilege and joy of an intimate relationship.  Lovers who strategize and toy with emotions in the beginning lay the groundwork for an agonizing relationship throughout.  I invite you to adopt Rebecca Mannerly's saying:  "It's either on or it's not!" Stopping, starting, dawdling, and torturing are good signs that your new flame would be better in a bad French movie than in reality.